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This issue has come up a lot lately in my life.  So I have decided to write about it.  We have all been in a situation where we have felt hurt or wronged in some way. I know that at least for me that is when I go into attack mode. I am going to hurt the person back that hurt me. I feel justified that they did it first so it’s okay for me to do it.  Are we ever really justified to hurt other people?   I say no.

Now I know what you are thinking “course you’re going to say no!” It seems like such a simple answer but very hard to do. I know that at least for me that I have a hard time letting go. I have a hard time forgiving people who have wronged me.  I want them to hurt and hurt as bad as me. That is wrong of me. If I expect that God will forgive me then I need to forgive others. It is really that simple.  

There have been times that I have seen other people fight for months over one issue. Neither one wants to back down nor the person that felt that they were wronged feels justified to hurt the other person back. Sometimes the person that is not back downing knows that they are wrong but to prideful to admit that. I have done this many times. I have been wrong but just too prideful to admit that I was. It has ruined relationships in my life when I couldn’t back down. I felt justified in hurting them back.  YOU are never justified in hurting another person. You have become just as guilty as the person that wronged you.  I know that I can become passive-aggressive when I really get my feelings hurt. I won’t go right to the person but say things loud enough for the person to hear. I know that I am hurting the person. I am wrong in that I am gossiping.

There is another thing that can go into this. I have seen people fight when they ask for someone to keep them accountable in their relationship with Christ and when this person does they get mad. Don’t ask someone to keep you accountable in Christ then get mad if you don’t like what they have to say.  I smoke, curse and drink. I don’t ask my Christ following friends to keep me accountable on those things because I am not willing to change in those areas yet. That is my problem. I want to be kept accountable on things that I am spiritual ready for and open to listening.


God wants us to grow with friends that can lift us up. He wants us to have people who we are accountable to. He also wants us to forgive others.  Jesus while dying on the cross prayed for the people that were crucifying him. In Luke 23:34 “Jesus said, “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing.”[And they divided up his clothes by casting lots.”

If Jesus can say that to God while people are murdering him I think we give forgive when people hurt our feelings.


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