Posts Tagged ‘Health’

As I have started to write a blog it has made me want to read other blogs. I know that other people write a much better blog than I. That is o.kay by me because I know that what I have to say is important. I have noticed a trend in blogs. There are all kinds of blogs on weight. I think that blogs on weight are important but this is the only blog on weight that I am going to write.  Blogs on weight kind of get on my nerves to be honest. I think that our society is just too focused on how we look.  There are surgeries to make you thinner, bigger boobs; you can change just about anything that you want about yourself.  Here is my question: Why? Why do we have to be a supermodel to be beautiful? I have never thought I was pretty enough or thin enough. I still have issues with my appearance.  As women it seems we all do. We feel that we can’t live up to the standards that have been placed on us.  A big emphasis has been placed on weight. I have seen girls at unhealthy weights (too thin) who want to lose more weight because that is what makes them feel pretty.  How sad is that.  

Also have women we feel the need to compete with each other. We need to be the best looking out of all our friends. Why can’t we lift each other up instead of tearing each other down?

 I have also seen girls that are bigger than they would like complain about their weight but won’t do a thing to change it. Honestly here is my solution to that: if you are unhappy with your weight then change it. I can’t stand to hear women whine that they are fat yet eat really unhealthy foods. Embrace who you are. You may not be built to be really thin and honestly it may look gross on you.  You have to embrace the way that God made you. He made you to look a certain way for a reason. I know it’s easier said than done. I have been overweight and whined about it. That only led me down a bad road of self-pity. I was no fun to my husband, my children or my friends. I have gotten thinner but I still feel fat. That is an issue I am working on and encourage you to do the same.


Here is what I think about weight.

You should be at a healthy weight, to avoid health problems. What your healthy weight is not the same as everybody else.

You should change your weight for yourself and not anybody else. That includes your spouse.

You should love who you are and not what you look like.

God doesn’t see our outward appearance but looks in our hearts. We are all beautiful to God! We should focus on our inward beauty and that will show in our outward appearance.  


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Raising children is the hardest thing I have ever done in my life. I know that a lot of parents feel that way. In saying that here are the top five things I think you should know before you become a parent.


This is a 24/7 job.  Now some people would not like the fact that I am referring to parenthood as a job but it is. I had no idea when I had my first son how much work an 8 pound baby could be. I soon realized that I could go with no sleep just fine with a little help from my friend called caffeine. It was amazing to me that I could function on 1 hour of sleep.  This job offers no pay, no vacation time, or sick leave. But the benefits are priceless.


Your children are not perfect. This is a concept that was fairly easy to me. I know that I am not perfect, so they are not going to be.  The thing is there are parents that think their children could walk on water. That is very hard for a child to live up to. I think that every child should have manners and should show respect. This does not mean that they won’t mess up. I mess up as a parent so my children will mess up.


People who do not have children will think they know everything about parenting. This is the one thing that surprised me the most. People who do not have children I have found have a lot of advice to parents. This advice is generally unwanted but they seem to think they know it all.  As my grandfather would say “When you have children you know nothing, by the time you are done raising them you are an expert.” So be assured that these people have no idea what it is like.


 Each child is unique. This sounds like a no brainer but it’s hard not to compare your children. I have been guilty of this. I not only compare my children to each other but to other children. Parents are very proud of their children and it is fun to brag about them. This should not be done to make yourself look better or to make others feel bad. I try to let my children be them. My oldest son is autistic so he is very different from most children. I had a really hard time not comparing him to other children. That was not good for either of us. My youngest son is my spit fire. Which he came by honestly.  My children are very different and I need to embrace their differences.


God gave you the children that you were meant to have. I stole this one from my pastor. I like this because it helped me a lot when I have struggled being a parent. God fully equipped you to take care of the children that he gave you. There have been times I have struggled to understand why I have a child that is different. This is the road that God has given me and I have tried to embrace it sometimes it’s easier than others. But God has given me the children that He knew I needed and they needed me. So remember that no matter what the is going on, you are fully capable of taking care of your children.


I am no expert in raising children. I am far from it. I yell at my children , get mad, and sometimes understand why animals eat their young.  I do love my children and want the best for them. I hope this helps all future parents and current parents.


God Bless,



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